Success is defined by Dictionary.com as “the favorable or
prosperous termination of attempts or endeavors; the accomplishment of one’s
goals” and as “the attainment of wealth, position, honors, or the like.”
Unfortunately, most people tend to lean more toward that second definition;
that is to say that they believe success is only truly attained when they have
great riches, or at least a great and powerful position. Ideally, most people
want both. In reality, though, the first definition- the one that simply points
to success as reaching your goals is a much better one.
See, success isn’t about ending up in some perfect position
and having everybody love you and heap money upon you. While there’s nothing
wrong with wanting those things, they are unattainable for the average person,
and they also leave you with a long journey to success with nothing to
celebrate along the way.
The “right” way to define success is really just by reaching
your goals, whatever they may be. Set small, attainable goals that lead up to
bigger goals, and each time you or one of your players reaches one, consider it
a “success” and celebrate it! You may also want to celebrate it as a goal when
one of your players learns or accomplishes something new or even when he does
something off the ice, like making an “A” on a tough test.
The point is to celebrate every single milestone, not just
the ones that most people would consider “major.” Even small successes count!
And, when you reward small successes in your players and in yourself, you’ll
find that everyone is much happier. If success is considered this
impossible-to-obtain thing, players will often get frustrated and lose sight of
their goals. Even worse, they’ll begin to believe that happiness and
fulfillment are something that come later, when, right now, during their one
and only childhood, they should be happy and learning to love and be proud of
themselves.
Foster your players emotionally and mentally by considering
every small victory a success. You’ll quickly find that the more you praise the
little victories, the more likely it is that the big victories will follow.
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